BE AWARE OF WHAT YOU SAY WHEN YOUR CHILDREN ARE AROUND YOU. THEY ARE ASSIMILATING YOU.
Nowadays all of us have become so busy with our work that we are unable to give enough time to our children. Its effect is seen in children’s studies and their behaviour. Due to this reason, mostly the children don’t listen to anyone and become aggressive otherwise sometimes they remain silent and can’t share anything to anyone.
Along with being an educator, I always communicate with parents about their ward's overall growth. By interacting with parents, it becomes easy for us to recognize the strengths and weaknesses of children who needs special attention from parents and whole society.
Here I want to focus on essential points of children’s development which you already know but even knowing you are unknown i.e. dealing with children, lacking of children’s development due to family issues, etc.
IT’S NOT EASY
It will be easy to live, it will be easy to die;
It is not easy to live for someone!
It will be easy to dwell in the body, to dwell in the heart;
It is not easy to live as a parent !
1. Bonding with your child.
Bonding is the intense attachment that develops between parents and their children. Dad should realize, early on, that bonding with their children isn't a matter of being another mom. In many cases, dad shares special activities with his infants.
The relationship between father and son should be sensitive, secure, and supportive as well as close, nurturing, and warm.
2. Don’t make your child a part of disputes of your life.
Don’t fight in front of your kids, you can scare them for life.
Children are like little sponges, absorbing our every word.
If there is negative atmosphere of fights and disputes among the parents or family members at home, then their children will be upset and their overall growth and development will not go in a proper way like a normal child. Regular fighting between parents can affect their children’s long-term mental health and expose them to a number of diseases in the future. Anyone who has grown up with their parents constantly fighting with each other knows the pain and emotional distress their verbal duels can cause.
The way we speak to our children and the words we use can have a huge impact on everything from their behaviour to their future self-esteem. By being more conscious of the language we use, and how we phrase things, we can have a profound positive impact on their personalities.
Parents should not speak bad words or not fight in presence of their children. Children always observe and follow their parents unknowingly. So we should keep our children in mind, before we utter any word. The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.
3. Focus on being productive instead of busy .
● Parents should give their time to their children with a productive work or playing games. So children can learn important life lessons related to duty, cooperation, community, hard work , thinking, objective assessment, analytical skill, patience, logical thinking, cause & consequence, decision making, time management, and many more.
4. Child’s first teacher is it’s mother.
A mother in her journey of bringing up the child makes many sacrifices on the way and it is through those instances children learn to grow up to be sensible, caring and compassionate towards other human beings.
5. Spend quality time with your child.
It is important for parents to spend quality and meaningful time with their kids and maintain a bond with them. Family time has a direct impact on a children’s social and emotional development. It doesn’t have to be expensive trips or cool gifts, the important part is just being together and spending quality time together.
6.Action Speak Louder than words but words sometimes get all the attention.
The attitude that you have as a parent is what your kids will learn from, more than what you tell them. They don’t remember what you try to teach them. They remember what you are.
Parents are role models for their children.
It is certainly essential to act on promises made to kids. This is because kids quickly learn that words are a bunch of false promises if no action takes place.
Kids are watching their parents what they do ,what they speak, how they walk , how they behave etc. Each and every small thing of parents is observed by their kids from childhood at home and surrounded area. So parents have to be more mindful of what they say and how they behave around their children.
7. AS YOU SOW SO SHALL YOU REAP
Man is responsible for the effect of his action. If the action is based on goodness, it will churn out only goodness in the long run. If the action has been evil, the outcome also tends to be evil. The Holy Gita and Koran also emphasize the same. Goodness is the child of good deeds and misfortune and calamities are the children of evil. This good actions of parents help their children develop social skills.
To conclude I want to say that if we, only educators, put so many efforts for the child’s development, we will get only a good result. But if we both educators and parents collectively do for the same, we will achieve the best result for the children’s overall growth.
I expect sufficient cooperation and feedback from each of my parents for the above mentioned efforts.